What is love?
Love is the absence of judgement.
– Dalai Lama
Those who have experienced some degree of Cosmic Consciousness all speak of unconditional love as the foundation or core characteristic of spiritual living. In fact, they say that Pure Love is the essence of our True Self.
Michael Singer writes that enlightened souls see life as if it were a beautiful botanical garden. They don’t judge the flowers and trees for looking different, for their colour or size or shape. All one sees on a walk through such a garden is beauty, diversity, abundance and inspiration.
What if we were to walk through our life that way?
We’d see each person as a beautiful creation. No need to be critical. No need for them to be all the same. Mostly, we would not see them as a threat.
It seems that I judge situations and people when I feel the need to protect myself. It’s usually that the “other” person or persons are doing something I don’t like, want, or respect.
What does what they are doing have to do with me?
Clearly, it’s fear of some kind. Given that it’s not love, what’s left is for it to be fear.
Something about what they think, what they’ve done, what they might be saying, scares me. When I am judging someone, like my husband for example, the true love of my life, I am coming from fear.
Something he is doing or more likely not doing, conjures up fear in me, that somehow I am not safe, protected or taken care of properly and therefore in danger.
“Ding ding ding,” go the warning bells within.
“Something terrible could happen here.”
Such deep primal responses seem totally out of place when we are being challenged by finances as an example or in situations where I’m not feeling heard.
And yet, those things will trigger me to judgement.
In those moments of judgement, I am not coming from love. I am not seeing anyone as amazing divine creations. In those moments, it’s all about me.
So non-judgement is possible, if I can get over myself, my small mind, my ego mind, my false self.
Of course, I’m judging myself right now for judging others. HAH. It’s a trap!
Whatever Arises, Love That
Whatever Arises, Love That is Matt Kahn’s book title and is also Matt Kahn’s practise. Darkness dissipates when we turn on the light. And the light is Love.
And so, based on what the experts have said, here’s my practise for this week to keep on my spiritual journey.
When I feel fear and judgement creep into my heart and thoughts, I will think love. I will breathe love. I will feel love. I will water the beautiful souls all around me with love. Including myself.
And then watch to see how this garden that I call my life grows.
That feels good. I bet it’ll look good too.
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Thanks for reading, ❤️ Lisa