Do one thing everyday that scares you. – Eleanor Roosevelt
I am contrast in action.
On one hand, I have the courage of a warrior. 💪🏻 For example, I quit school at 16 to work as a singer. I packed up and moved to NYC and LA, all on my own. I enrolled in University even without a high school diploma. I have been self-employed my entire life. Oh, and I do CrossFit!
There’s the other hand. When it comes to taking certain steps in my business, I retreat into my comfort zone, with my head on a pillow and HGTV on the screen.
Can any of you relate?
Here are the things that cause me to withdraw and hide:
- Putting myself out there re: networking, connecting, letting people know who I am and what I do.
- Taking risks like asking for the sale, sending more than ONE email, getting out of my home office!
- Stepping into my greatness, meaning owning my 25 years as a coach, owning my Master’s Degree in Counselling, owning my capacity to help and heal and gosh darn it, make a difference.
This comfort zone is a curious experience.
So I did a little research.
It seems that stretching our comfort zone, or even stepping out of it, creates tension, stress, and even some anxiety. And although we are wired to avoid that anxiety, and therefore go back into our caves, some stress actually improves performance.
I know that first hand. I was always stressed before a show. It’s called performance anxiety. I bet you’ve had that too. And yet, once I got going, I got into a flow and had a great time. That stress pumped me up. I performed better.
In contrast, once I went to a “floating” tank before a recording session. You know, those chambers where you float in salt water without light or sound. Honestly, they relaxed me in ways I just couldn’t do otherwise.
But, the point is, I came to the recording studio so “peaced out” that I had no excitement in my voice, no energy for the record. It was chez bland!
So, according to research and personal experience, stress is good. To a point.
If there is too much, the opposite happens. Performance fails. I’ve had that too. I’m sure you have too. Just too much anxiety to do a good job. Brain fails, talent fails, it just all fails.
So guess where we are??? We are in the Goldilocks fairy tale. 👩🏼🦱
What we want to try to find is the stress that feels “just right.” Not too much, not too little. Just right!
There is going to be stress, anxiety, out and out fear starting and running your own business. Whether you are trying to take your yoga classes online, find clients for your life coaching business, or launch a digital course, you will feel stress. It might show up as imposter syndrome, overwhelm, hitting a wall, and withdrawing into binge watching Ted Lasso. It’s okay. It’s to be expected.
Do your best to breathe, relax and release and take some brave action. Move your way out of your comfort zone and well, as they say, “Everything you want is outside your comfort zone.” Indeed, you will likely start to experience results you’ve been hoping for.
I’m going to do my best to be brave in those scary moments.
Let me know if you notice when I do that. And come to @lisagarbercoaching and tell me about your brave steps.
Let’s encourage each other.
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