Being my Best Self
Watching Oprah was where I first heard about the concept of being my best self. I took it to heart.
I have seen both in myself and with my therapy and coaching clients that they just want to be better people. Maybe it looks like solving a problem or personal issue. Maybe it’s to be better parents, better in relationships or more creative. Some people just want to be better looking. 😁
And although it can look to some that the whole becoming your best self movement is self-centred, I believe it is the very opposite. I believe that growth in life is totally natural. In fact, I see it as core to the very nature of life.
Here’s what I mean about how natural it is to want to be your best self.
We’ve all learned in school that the universe is expanding. It’s pretty incredible really. But it means that changing and growing is the very essence of life.
As adults, we soon learn we have two choices when it comes to this constant change. We either go with it or resist it. And as any Star Trek fan knows, “Resistance is Futile.”
It just feels so much better to keep moving forward in our lives and within ourselves. It puts us in the flow of life.
Even so, I was surprised by the amount of growth I received from creating a simple morning routine as a way to be my best self.
The Benefit of Developing a Simple Morning Routine
Here’s what happened.
More than five years ago, I committed to starting a morning routine, a conscious system of activities, that I repeat every day, even on the weekends.
I tried a few different ideas and really liked Hal Enron’s Miracle Morning.
Besides, how can anyone resist that title? Who doesn’t want a miracle morning? Hal lists six activities that spell out S.A.V.E.R.S.
- Scribe (writing)
I have slowly created my own routine based on the Miracle Morning that consists of:
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How does a morning routine help you to be your best self?
Certainly, there are many benefits to each of these morning activities. The meditation is grounding and connects me with my higher purpose in life. The reading is always spiritual and helps me to expand my awareness. Writing is a way to be in relation with myself, my inner thoughts, my creativity and allows me to integrate my meditation and reading. And exercise lifts my mood.
All pretty great right?
Still, as great as those benefits are, none compares to the biggest benefit I have gotten from that morning routine.
My morning routine has shown me that I can keep the promises I make to myself.
It has reversed a very long time habit of letting myself down. Ouch!
By committing to and then doing my morning routine, I build trust within myself, for myself. And that is what has made it such a powerful tool for becoming my best self.
I had lived too many years before this, continually letting myself down by not keeping the promises I made to myself. I would promise to exercise, and not do it. I would promise myself to eat better, and fall off of that too.
It started young. As a kid, I’d promise myself every year to do better at school. Each September, I would look at my crisp fresh notebooks and promise that this year, I would keep them organized and neat.
“This year I will do all my homework,” my inner voice would vow.
This year I would try to be my best self, or simply a better version of myself from the year before.
And each year, sometime in October, the books were a mess, I was way behind with my homework and I just forgot to care. I gave up.
Not keeping those promises to myself took a toll.
It became a habit.
Letting myself down turned into low self esteem and anxiety. I couldn’t trust myself!
I had constant arguments inside my head between my better angels and the part of me that didn’t believe a word those angels said.
By keeping my morning routine going, my esteem has grown, my trust of myself has grown and hey, I just feel better about myself in general.
That inner trust has spread into a lot of other areas of my life, like writing a weekly blog for example, and showing up in my professional life in a bigger way.
I learned that keeping promises I make to myself makes me be better and do better and live better too.
That is how my simple morning routine is helping me to become my best self.
Becoming your best self can mean a lot of different things to different people.
For me, it’s less about self-improvement and all about keeping promises to myself, knowing that I won’t let myself down and proving that I am a trustworthy person. This gives me the strength to believe I can do just about anything.
And it all started with a simple morning routine.
Talk to you again soon,