The truth is that most of life will unfold in accordance with forces far outside your control, regardless of what your mind says about it – Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul
This morning, I listened to Abraham-Hicks on Youtube. They talked about learning to trust our inner being, completely. They say that it is always there, guiding us through the path of least resistance. I know one thing for sure, I don’t take that path. I take the path of most resistance, the path of trying too hard.
It’s as if I have a powerful belief that nothing good is going to happen unless I force it to.
And you know what? I’m tired.
Here’s what I mean:
*Is your mind always going?
*Do you try to figure everything out?
*Do you read multiple books at the same time looking for answers?
*Do you purchase programs for building your business and try to follow them perfectly even if they aren’t totally true to you?
*Do you lack trust in the forces of the Universe?
*Did you check off any of the above?
I did! All of them.
All these behaviours combine to overwhelm me. I call it Expert Indigestion.
I’m listening to everyone except my inner self. It’s too many ideas from too many people all vying for time and attention in my mind.
None of the behaviours above would be considered following the path of least resistance.
Rather, I am in a constant fight with life. Argh!
By now, you may have noticed I like to research, read, and watch Youtube…a lot. Basically, I rely on myself to do everything and to know everything because of this underlying belief that nothing good will happen unless I force it, or make it happen.
It also comes from a sense of not being good enough. Hence, constant self-improvement which translates as study more and try harder to make up for my deficiencies. Whew.
See why I’m exhausted?
Now here’s what’s a little odd.
I know all this doesn’t work! I wrote my Master’s thesis on Spiritual Surrender. Fifty pages of research and examples of how when people actually let go of trying so hard, good things happen.
In fact, often by letting go of what you think you want, you actually get it.
I even have a personal example of this. It’s how I connected with my husband.
And it goes like this:
A few years after my divorce from my first husband I was ready to get out there again. But because I believed nothing good would happen unless I put all my energy into it, and basically, forced it to happen, I bought books, programs and did coaching around my relationship goal.
I was reading, studying, listening to a lot of relationship teachers. At least four, all with books and tapes and online courses.
I was feverish with inputting stuff into my brain. I was dating and trying all these new strategies out.
Man, I was busy. I was trying really hard. And man, I was miserable.
A few really stupid relationship attempts later, I gave up.
It seems that for me to adopt a path of least resistance, something has to break.
So, I let go. White flag. I surrendered.
I had a powerful realization that I could be fine and happy alone, that I didn’t need a relationship to be happy. What I was giving up was my wrong thinking. I was letting go of the idea that I needed a relationship to be happy.
It may sound obvious to you, but it was a revelation to me that I could be happy on my own. And so, I let go. And I said in earnest, “Universe, if you want me to be with someone – well that’s great. You make it happen. Otherwise, I’m going out there to enjoy my life as it is.”
And so I did. I let go.
Three days later, my friend Amy called to talk about a man who had just interviewed her on the radio. She’s an amazing musician and was promoting a live show.
She kept asking me questions about him because she said I knew him from my days as a musician.
Long story short, she wanted to set us up.
And the rest is history. Three days after I completely let go of trying so hard to find a mate, I got set up with my now husband, my true soul mate.
As Michael Singer writes in the Untethered Soul, “the truth is that most of life will unfold in accordance with forces far outside your control, regardless of what your mind says about it.”
Here’s what is truly magical about all this. Amy was supposed to be interviewed by someone else, the host of the morning show. Last minute, the station changed it to the afternoon host – my husband to be. 😍
Now, how could I, no matter how hard I tried, how could I have orchestrated that whole wondrous event?
I could not.
Abraham-Hicks reminded me of all that this morning as I looked at all the books I’m currently reading, the social media I am currently planning, the group coaching program I am currently developing and my inner need to force it all to happen.
Pretty clear spiritual lesson today: Stop trying so hard to make stuff happen!!! Let it go. 🎶
Got it. And I think I need to add my Frozen playlist to my morning routine so I remember this powerful spiritual lesson.
Thanks for reading, Lisa