How To Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs
If you are like me, you have read a lot about the negative power of limiting beliefs in our lives. Many life coaches and personal development teachers propose that how we think is the single thing that holds us back. Wow! That’s intense and a little disturbing given how hard it is to change our thoughts.
Looks like working on sorting through those negative thoughts to define the limiting beliefs seems like the major work of our life.
Do you know your limiting beliefs?
Try asking yourself these questions:
- What are the things that, if I had a little more confidence or courage, I would do differently?
- With more confidence and courage, what might I try? What crazy wonderful dream would I go after?
Now ask yourself: Why don’t I do those things now?
The answers are your limiting beliefs.
Those limiting beliefs, I can tell you from experience, sound pretty much like this:
I am not ready.
I am too old.
I am out of shape.
I don’t have what it takes.
I’m not good enough.
I don’t measure up to others.
I’m afraid of failing.
I’m afraid of winning.
I’m afraid of looking bad or stupid.
I don’t have the support I need.
I won’t be loved.
I am not lovable.
I was raised in poverty and don’t know how to get over that.
And on and on it goes.
Why Do Humans Have Limiting Beliefs
How is it that humans have these beliefs? And why are they pretty much all the same?
In fact, in The Untethered Soul, author Michael A. Singer writes that all humans have a place in their consciousness where they think they are not okay. I’ll say that again: All these limiting beliefs come from the idea in our consciousness that we are not okay.
That is pretty much my limiting thought to a tee. If I look at all my sadness, stuck places, disappointments, and why I don’t do the things I say I want to do, it’s because I think there is something wrong with me, that I am not okay. At my core, I feel like damaged goods. Ouch.
Yet, Singer says we all have that. It’s not just me. It’s part of being human. Well more precisely, it’s what happens when we identify completely with being human and have lost the feeling of connection with our higher consciousness, or Spirit.
The Christian mystic Joel Goldsmith, in a lecture from 1960, rather blew my mind the other day when he talked about those thoughts having NO power.
He says that these limiting or negative thoughts about ourselves are just that, beliefs. In and of themselves, they have no power. In other words, they are vapour, steam, hot air!!!!!
Well that changes everything when we stop seeing limiting beliefs as having power over us.
Because, if they don’t have any power over us, it isn’t a question of trying to change them, something I keep trying to do with every breath in my body. No indeed. Instead, when we recognize that they aren’t real, and have no power, well, they have no power. We are free!
My favourite story about how our beliefs can just vaporize comes from India.
For thousands of years people asked: What does the earth sit upon? They had beautiful ideas, thoughts, beliefs about giant pillars of elephants finally standing on a giant turtle’s back.
And then, they learned the earth was round and floating in space. And the thoughts about what the earth rested on simply disappeared. The beliefs vanished.
We can do that too with our limiting beliefs. Want to try?
Here’s how to change our limiting beliefs.
Instead of focusing on them, beating them up, loving them, affirming the opposite, and who knows what else we keep trying, learn to take a step back and simply witness them.
Do not engage!
Watch them floating by like leaves floating on a river or clouds floating in the sky.
Remember, they have no power. They are just thoughts generated for who knows why and for no good reason.
No power over you. Just children’s building blocks that have tumbled and fallen away.
Relax. Release. Breathe. And poof, limiting beliefs begone!
See you next time,
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